Topics of conversation for a young lady were kept light, such as the weather and definitely did not include matters of politics and religion, which were best kept for the men who understood those things! The character Elizabeth Bennett is one of the most famous characters who rejected the overall notion which traditionally also included good breeding, preferably from aristocracy and old money. Women and especially younger women have taken this to new extremes.

In the movies we see what a good woman is. For example in 'Pride and Prejudice' or 'Emma', we see that over one hundred years ago in English society a good woman was one who is refined in certain areas such as housekeeping (at least supervising), cooking or at least menu preparation, needlework, playing a musical instrument such as the piano and/or singing, and etiquette or how to behave like a lady. The television program 'From Ladette to Lady' is a classic case.

Additionally she was outspoken and had high expectations in love and was passionate about at least some form of equality in marriage – all very radical concepts for a young woman in that day. Unfortunately with the women's lib propaganda becoming mainstream, men were confounded, and still they have not yet come to terms with the new role. Now women not only can have a job after marriage but may also at times be the major financial provider in the household.

Whilst the underlying practicality of home duties is admirable, the quashing of one's own personality and gifts for the sake of society and perhaps the husband, was a major factor leading to the women's liberation movement. So amongst this backdrop, what does it look like to prepare yourself for finding true love… Become the right partner. When we are the right mate – we can then attract the right mate. Proverbs 31 tells us that "A wife of noble character, who can find?